My friend had a similar situation. These kind of people are dangerous. Luckily she got away from him, but after that he started threatening her in new ways and now she’s constantly afraid of seeing him in a public space.
Get away from people like this as soon as possible.
She definitely needs to leave him. That’s manipulative. If he does say he’s going to kill himself, she should call 911 (or the equivalent in another country). They’ll send the police to check on him and take him to the ER if need be. She is not responsible for his life.
no person is under an obligation to allow themself to be hurt because someone else is unable to take responsibility for their own actions
the chances of him going through with it are very very low. He’s saying that thing because he knows she’s too kind to leave for it. more than likely he’ll just keep messaging her online or the like similar threats and eventually go away when he realizes she’s serious. he’s not interested in hurting himself, he’s interested in hurting her by fucking up her head
i have no real good advice so my advice is fucking fight him. or something. get away. honestly people like that dont deserve your emotional labour because they will drain you fucking dry
honestly this whole blog is a suicide warning right now lmao (sorry to those of you that just followed and then this happened)
and YEAH HUGE FUCKING DIFFERENCE
huge difference my god
the first anon that messaged me, if you’re reading this- don’t feel bad about your message. there’s a right way and a wrong way to go about writing depression and that is definitely the wrong way- because it was about abuse not depression.
you opened up a big conversation i think a lot of people on here needed to have so thank u for that. this blog is a little darker than most prompts blogs ive seen and as a result it attracts a certain kind of audience. there are some terrible, horrible stories happening on my blog right now and all of them are real and that’s terrible but it’s worse if that stay quiet because then they keep fucking happening
i dont know what im trying to say lmao. im not actually the best at words but i hope y’all understand what i mean anyway
mentall illness can affect your behaviour and it can make you do things, but you’re still?? responsible for that?? you cannot use mentall illness as an excuse to abuse or manipulate someone it’s not okay. like. yeah you can be clingy but you can’t punish someone for having other friends there’s a difference, a line, and thats important.
it’s not your responsibility to allow someone to hurt you because they refuse to get help. they can’t manipulate a proffessional so thats why they keep hurting themselves and you and it’s not your fault
he definitely wasn’t serious he was a manipulative jackass people who threaten suicide aren’t suicidal they’re people who are willing to hurt others by hurting them self out of some masochistic bullshit
i’m glad you cut ties before you got into something with that person. it started ugly and would’ve gotten worse fast