codareign
replied to your post “My friend was in a relationship for a few months with this guy when…”

My friend had a similar situation. These kind of people are dangerous. Luckily she got away from him, but after that he started threatening her in new ways and now she’s constantly afraid of seeing him in a public space.
Get away from people like this as soon as possible.

@strechii

She definitely needs to leave him. That’s manipulative. If he does say he’s going to kill himself, she should call 911 (or the equivalent in another country). They’ll send the police to check on him and take him to the ER if need be. She is not responsible for his life.

yeah

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Hey, yeah, my mom once basically threatened suicide after I asked, a couple months in advance, if I could go on vacation with a friend for a week, a vacation that said friend had offered to completely pay for my way. Didn’t announce I was going, simply asked if I could. I’m supposed to be leaving this house soon, permanently, but it’s hard because I’m absolutely afraid of what she’ll do when she discovers I’m gone. I’m terrified of what or who she’ll hurt because she’ll be mad I’m gone.

<lays on you>

anyway im going to fight your mom. get out anon- what she does in response (if she does anything at all) to that is her problem. itll be better once you go

My friend was in a relationship for a few months with this guy when she realised she wanted to leave him, and that’s when he started threatening to commit suicide if she left, telling her how she was the only good in his life and now she’s been to afraid to leave for 3 years, no matter how unhappy and drained it makes her because if he did kill himself she wouldn’t be able to forgive herself and I hate this guy so much for what he’s done to her, she’s a shadow of who she used to be

leave him

no person is under an obligation to allow themself to be hurt because someone else is unable to take responsibility for their own actions

the chances of him going through with it are very very low. He’s saying that thing because he knows she’s too kind to leave for it. more than likely he’ll just keep messaging her online or the like similar threats and eventually go away when he realizes she’s serious. he’s not interested in hurting himself, he’s interested in hurting her by fucking up her head

i have no real good advice so my advice is fucking fight him. or something. get away. honestly people like that dont deserve your emotional labour because they will drain you fucking dry